9 Little Things to Keep the Marital Romance Alive Before & After Kids.

Don’t you miss how you and your partner spent hours together hands in hand watching a sunset or walking on the beach. Well, so does he! Instead of being frustrated and dropping hints to him on how you feel, maybe you should start taking some steps to bring back romance in your life. Little things will bring back the spark and soon, your partner will also follow suit and enjoy the renewed romance in your lives.

Here are some little things that will keep the romance alive in your relationship whether you are married or even have kids to take care of:

1. Complements Never Fail: Your partner seems to have forgotten to notice when you wear a new dress or try a new shade of lipstick or do your hair in a different way. But what about you? Do you notice when he suddenly look much more handsome on a particular day? Take time out of your work and kids to notice his looks and complement him. It’s not only just the looks. Encouraging complements on his work, achievements and what a great Dad he is, will motivate and re-energize him.

2. Take Interest in His Life: Maybe it bores you to death when he spends a whole day in the garage painting or washing his car and you simply cannot stand when he watches one of those never-ending automotive shows on TV, but do think again. They are not that boring really. Maybe once or twice, you could really find yourself interested in how beautiful a certain new car looks or how an old car gets converted to a brand new one. Take some interest, give your own ideas and comments and if you are really dumb on the topic, ask questions about it! He will be glad to answer and even more glad that you asked.

3. Go for a Ride: It might seem impossible to plan and go out for a ride what with cooking for the entire family, dropping kids to their school, shopping for groceries, picking up kids from school and then cooking again. But how about squeezing it in when doing one of your errands together. When returning from the grocery store, take a longer route and spend time talking to each other.

4. Listen to Music: Of course not at home! You would hardly be able to persuade your kids to give up listening to their favorite songs and play your own and neither will you find the time. Use your car for that purpose. Whenever you are together in the car, play your favorite songs. Every couple has songs that are special for them. Burn a CD of just those songs and keep it in the car so you can listen to it whenever you find time together.

5. Get Physical: Not in that way, we mean. A soothing touch when he is feeling down, holding hands when in a crowd, a hug when he has excelled in some way or the other or simply a touch on his shoulder when you pass by his chair. It all does wonders to any relationship. If you can find after the kids go to bed, spend time cuddled on the couch browsing a magazine together or watching TV or simply talking.

6. Little Surprises: A post-it-note saying ‘I have fallen in love all over again…..with YOU!’ or a love note in his lunch box or a simple ‘I Love You’ SMS will make his day. We all need to know how much we are loved. Take some effort and cook him his favorite dish (that you never make because everybody else in the family detests it). Buy him a gift or surprise him by giving him time off from any of his regular errands. Decorate your bedroom for a romantic evening together or plan a surprise candle-light dinner.

7. Pamper Him: On a Sunday, plan a surprise ‘Pamper Routine’ for him. Give him a facial or a back or foot massage (or a combination) along with a hot oil massage. It will soothe his aching body and relax his mind as well. When the massage is done, give him the luxury of a aromatic bath that you prepared beforehand.

8. Go Back in Time: Romantic memories will re-kindle the romance in your lives. Talk about those times and see photo albums of your honeymoon and other vacations together. Take out all your memorabilia – love cards, little gifts, notes, the first rose, locks of hair etc. and remember what went into each memory.

9. Get Closer To God: We shouldn’t forget the creator. He maketh everything new in his own way. Getting closer to him and imbibing his fear will help lubricate the oil in marriage.

All these little things will help keep the flame of romance burning and give you a happier married life with your beloved.

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The Blind Boy Story & Morale – Be thankful for what you have. Be creative, Innovative, Think differently and positively.

A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which said: “I am blind, please help.” There were only a few coins in the hat. A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words. Soon the hat began to fill up.

A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy. That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were. The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, “Were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?”

The man said, “I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a different way. “I wrote: ‘Today is a beautiful day; but I cannot see it.'”Both signs told people that the boy was blind.

But the first sign simply said the boy was blind. The second sign reminded people how fortunate they were to have their sight. Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective?

Moral of the Story:

Be thankful for what you have. Be creative. Be innovative. Think differently and positively. When life gives you a 100 reasons to cry, show life that you have 1000 reasons to smile. Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear. Keep the faith and drop the fear.

It’s a beautiful thing to see someone smiling, making it even more beautiful knowing you are the reason for the smile!

Faith is not about everything turning out OK, Faith is about being OK no matter how things turn out. If you appreciate this message, please share. You may touch someone’s heart today and forever. Enjoy this beautiful day with a heart full of gratitude to the

Almighty God – who makes all things beautiful at his time… Stay blessed and do have a productive week!

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What Husbands Want From Their Wives

Though marriage is assumed to be a concept of sharing and caring each other, in reality it is quite different. When both souls start living together, priorities of both individuals take their tolls on each other’s life. It is very important to know that your priorities will be changed after your marriage. It does not imply that marriage is all about sacrificing your priorities. It means setting your priorities well below those of your partner.

Though the principle of adjustment is applicable to both the partners, it is well understood that the female partner can play a significant role in maintaining the relationship stronger and better. This is because the females possess certain inherent qualities that make them understand their partners beyond the normal communication. There are many things that a husband expects from his wife after marriage. Those who cannot understand the psychology of their husbands can get a gist of their minds from the following hints.

What they want and what they don’t want

• They wish to be cared for: Women are the incarnation of mothers. So are their roles in every relationship. A motherly love can do wonders in relationships. Even if your husband is a high-profile executive or an astronaut, when it comes to relationships, he is like a small kid who crave for love, more and more. And it is you alone who can pour the incessant love to him.

• They want 100% honest wife: This is one of the fundamentals of relationship. The moment you feel you are away from your husband, express your views to him openly and try to avoid the possible conflicts.  Try to remain separately for a few days and rethink your decision before getting separated.

• They wish you know their accomplishments: Whether it is a personal achievement or a career improvement, you should be aware of what is going on in his life, especially the positive sides of his life. Compliment him for his achievements. But your compliment should not be like a flattery. The fact is that men are the best preys of flatteries if done in a good sense; on the other hand, it may backfire if you exaggerate it.

• They do not want to be degraded: If your husband is not a Mr. Perfect, don’t express your feeling in front of him. If he forgets his duties and ignores your life altogether, your relationship may suffer. In these situations too, you are not going to gain anything by shouting at him or giving him advice. Men neither like criticism nor advice, especially from their better halves.

• They do not want to change themselves: It is a general principle that you cannot change anyone on earth. You would rather change yourself than expecting a change from him. If you are annoyed with his chain smoking, you may better adjust yourself to the new unhealthy lifestyle than distancing from the sweet relationship. If you change yourself, there are chances that your husband will appreciate you and change himself.

Go, get your life changed altogether with an unconditional love.

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What It Takes To Be Happy – You’ll Be Motivated By This Advice

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil.
In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and
boil; without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and
placed them in a bowl.

Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, “Tell me what you see.”

“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the
daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then
asked, “What does it mean, mother?”

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water.

Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

“Which are you?” she asked her daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my
strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a tender heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a
financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter
and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water
gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the
situation around you.

When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

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My Spouse is in Love with Someone Else – Things Not To Do And Things To Do.

You suspected it long before you knew it for sure.

Your spouse changed but you couldn’t quite explain the changes in a way that seemed to make sense to anyone else. You thought that you were imagining things, being insecure. Then you began to vacillate, worrying that you must be right but telling yourself that surely you aren’t. When you asked questions, the answers seemed a little too slick, too rehearsed. Sometimes your questions hit harder and your spouse reacted with anger or sarcasm, telling you that you’re paranoid. If you suspected a particular person, your spouse reassured you that there was nothing going on and that this person is a friend…maybe even your friend…and it wasn’t fair to think that about them.

Finally, you made the discovery. Maybe you checked the cell phone bill, read emails, found a note or letter in a pocket or purse, or, even worse, someone saw them and told you about it. When you confronted, denial reigned. But not forever.

Eventually, your mate told you that it’s over between the two of you. He or she is in love with the other person. Prepare for divorce. Cooperate and they will make things easy for you. Refuse to cooperate and you will find yourself in a bloody legal battle. Maybe your spouse cajoled, or threatened, in a concerted effort to keep you from telling anyone what was happening. He or she did everything possible to keep you from going to your church leaders, their boss, your family, your in-laws, and maybe even your best friend. Secrecy helped them, not you, but because you thought there might be a chance to keep him or her calm and possibly stop this nightmare, you allowed yourself to be manipulated.

Maybe your abandoning spouse had a period of hesitation. He or she tried to end the affair, and told you that they were willing to work on the marriage. Maybe the paramour found a way to get to him or her, rekindled the passion and convinced your spouse that he or she will never be happy without them. If your spouse went back to the affair the second time, it seemed to have much more power over them than in the beginning.

By the time you broke your silence, things had evolved to an almost impossible situation. Your church leaders tried, but had no success in righting the wrong behavior of your spouse. They found themselves listening to how terrible it is to be married to you, or how hypocritical they were to tell someone else to do right. They might even have heard the startling news that God Himself sent the lover and that He wants them to be together. Or, they might have heard that your spouse no longer believes what they once believed, so the church folks may as well go bother someone who buys into their malarkey.

Hopeless?

No.

The fact is that even in these situations a possibility exists that the marriage can be saved and, with time, made good again. That may sound Pollyannaish, but I’ve personally witnessed it repeatedly over the last sixteen years. My faith in God tells me through His power anything can be done. My faith in people has been strengthened by experiencing God intervening in lives even when a person wanted God to leave him or her alone to do what they wanted to do.

A straying partner who has convinced him- herself that life will be wonderful with the new person seldom decides that before he or she leaves they should take one more run at saving the marriage. It’s much more likely that the abandoning spouse will avoid anything that might convince him or her to stop the new relationship and heal the marriage. However, I’ve witnessed case after case in which those marriages were saved, sometimes even after the divorce took place. One couple remarried after being divorced ten years! I don’t mean to give false hope. There are marriages that are doomed and no matter what happens, it will end and never be healed. On the other hand, for many years I’ve seen the salvaging of marriages that seemingly everyone else has given up on.

Admittedly, I become frustrated with leaders or counselors who too quickly encourage the abandoned spouse to accept that it’s over and move on. Yes, that advice is sound when there is no hope. However, my experience is that too often we don’t count on the power of God and, therefore, make premature judgments about how hopeless a situation might be. I’ll make another admission; I’ve gone through marriage intensives with couples that at the end I would have predicted there was no way they would heal their marriage. Yet I saw it work out.

Miracle?

I think that’s a fairly good word to use when God’s involved.

For example, recently a couple came through our weekend intensive workshop for marriages in crisis that shared a remarkable story. Though highly involved in their church, she had gotten too close to another member and that had gradually led to adultery. Neither meant for it to happen. No one went looking for that kind of relationship. Like so many others they didn’t understand the danger and forged ahead with a friendship that was destined to become a passion. By the time they realized they were on the wrong path, they were so enmeshed with each other that they were convinced that the best thing for everyone – spouses, children, church – was to divorce their spouses and marry each other. The night she told her husband her plans, the emotion was so intense that soon she was in a deep sleep. He interpreted that as her not caring. The real cause of her deep slumber was the depth of her emotional state. Nevertheless, he spent the rest of the night praying over her sleeping body. He prayed that God would convict her heart; that He would somehow reduce or remove the emotions she had for the other man.

It worked.

The next morning she awakened with the realization that she wanted to save her marriage and wanted very much to get past the feelings she had for her lover. Shortly thereafter they were in our workshop to learn how it happened, how to heal it, and how to grow in love like they never had before.

That’s the only time I’ve heard the story work just that way.

More often the abandoned spouse prays and prays but the abandoning spouse reacts callously. They don’t want to see the error of their actions. They don’t want to face the guilt of their wrongdoing. They seek any counsel, from Christians or otherwise, that empathizes with their position and gives any encouragement whatsoever.

Does that mean prayer has no power?

Not at all.

It means that sometimes God works directly on a person’s heart in ways beyond human understanding, and sometimes He uses other methodologies. Praying is powerful. So is doing the right things.

If your spouse has told you that he or she is in love with someone else, I suggest you do the following things.

Ask Yourself This Question

Before giving up on a straying spouse, it would behoove you to ask, “Is my spouse a bad person doing a bad thing, or a good person doing a bad thing?”

Good people sometimes do really stupid things. However, if at heart they are good people, they are worth rescuing. It’s your choice, of course, and you can tell your straying spouse to leave and never return. Or, if he or she is a good person involved in a bad situation, you can fight to save your marriage. Our experience is that if a good person gets straightened out, not only can the marriage be saved, but it can be stronger and more loving than it was before.

Things NOT to Do

If you decide to try to save your marriage, immediately stop allowing your spouse to manipulate you in any way. Don’t make things easy for him or her. Slow things down and drag things out even if it makes them angry. Time is on your side, especially if you continually pray for God to intercede and bring trials and tribulations into the sinful relationship.

At the same time, do not cling, beg, whine, plead, or manipulate. It makes you less attractive and intensifies whatever justification he or she has mentally made that allows leaving you. Be strong. Make it clear that while you would like to save the marriage, your life will go on and you will prosper if they don’t come back.

This is very, very important.

When a person believes that you are there no matter what they do, they have no compulsion to do right. When they see that you can live happily without them, you become more attractive.

Things to Do

Take care of yourself physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually. Your life will not end if your marriage ends. God will still be in heaven. He will still love you. Other people in your life who care about you will still care about you. No matter how much you love your spouse, life can go on and be good if he or she leaves you. The time to take care of you is NOT after the chaos has ended. You must do it now. It benefits you. It benefits your family. And, believe it or not, it often helps bring the spouse back, though you cannot do it for only that reason.

When you are sure that your spouse is involved in something, or with someone, that is wrong, arrange a group to do an intervention. There are time-tested and proven ways to do interventions. You cannot be part of the actual intervention, so pick people that he or she respects or cares about. If your children are old enough, add them to the group; they make great interveners.

Make an offer of some benefit that will come to your straying spouse if he or she agrees to try at least one thing to save the marriage. Pray for wisdom as to what may motivate your spouse. Our experience is that they are unlikely to agree to a lengthy counseling period.

Whether you use the services of a counselor full of faith, a minister, or any other help, do something. If you have a desire to save your marriage, act. Sitting alone while having a pity party does nothing good for you or anyone else. You cannot make your spouse do right, but you can make yourself get out of the dumps and back on the road of faith in the God who speaks universes into existence. He will not abandon you, even if your spouse does.

Your fullness of life is in Him.

Trust that.

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Marriage and Money Issues – Simple Instructions to Follow

Most Couples go into marriage with the mistaken idea that there’s an invisible line separating them. This kind of separation can cause a host of marriage and money problems.

The truth regarding money in marriage, there is no such thing as mine and yours. It’s not my money, or your money, but rather our money. Likewise, it’s not my debt, or your debt, but our debt. Once you exchange marital vows, both of you becomes one and one forever, hence everything you do and share, you share as one.

Little wonder then there’s a well known scripture in the bible that says “the two shall become one”. However, many understand this line to mean just sexual intimacy, the principle of “oneness” is one that you should liberally apply to your money and marriage.

Does that mean we should have joint bank accounts or separate accounts? Well, why not have both? That is, have a joint account for paying bills and separate accounts for personal spending. This has proven realistic for most blissful marriages.

The most important thing is that you make all your financial decisions as one entity. Money in marriage should be all about oneness.

However, one big question that may be going on in your right now is;  “who should be responsible for managing the money and paying bills, the husband or the wife?”  The wise solution is to allow the person who has the maturity, knowledge, and skill manage the finances. It could be the man or the woman. Both of you should know each other closely, so let’s nature work it out.

Listen, there’s no law anywhere governing money and marriage, so do go with what work best for you. What works for couple A might be the exact opposite of that of couple B. The most important thing is that both of you agree and understands each other.

However, there are basic principles of  finances you will need to put into place to secure your financial future; like creating other streams of income, tithing (for Christians), giving alms (for Muslims), budgeting, and a few more essentials we’ll share.

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Unequal Love Of Some Mothers To Their Children

The best jewellery a woman will have round her neck is the hands of her children. This is so true when the children are brought up in a good, cooperative way and with love and unity among the children.

When a child is growing up, he expects to get everything his parents gives to his other siblings, but when this isn’t the case, the child feels bad. A woman who had two children, both boys,loved the younger one more than the older one. Nothing that the first son does was acceptable by her. One will begin to ask why a mother will hate her own child, but it happens. She continued like this until the first child couldn’t bear it any longer. He ran away from the house only for him to return as an armed robber. He killed his mum and younger brother due to the hatred his mum has planted in him. He was later arrested and killed as well.

Tragic huh? Some families end up this way as a result of carelessness of some mothers. As a mother, you shouldn’t show that you love any of your children more than the other cos this can be disastrous to the unity of the family.

Effects of unequal love of some mothers to their children:
(1) it makes a child to develop hatred for his/her sibling that is been cared more for.
(2) it will make the child to feel cheated and this can affect the child’s physical and social well being.
(3) it can put some bad thoughts into the child’s head, thoughts like running away from his home or even harming his mother or his sibling that is cared for more.
(4) it can expose the child to bad companies, due to the fact that he thinks that his family hates him.

As a mother, you should love you children equally. Yes you can have one that you love more than others, but don’t show it in any means or form cos doing that will break your home apart.

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Signs That Your Husband Still Loves You!

Many a times we need assurances and re-assurances in our marriage. For instance, you might wonder how to know if your husband still loves you. It might be good for you to realize that he probably also needs some assurance too. That is the more reason you should forgive him to reassure him that he can still count on your love.

More so, know that it is very frustrating for you if you really do wonder if your husband still loves you. You can hardly change an individual, including your husband if you are not ready to change your old self. Let’s examine some questions that will help us sort this out.

1. Does he want to spend time with you?

Does he want to spend time with you or does it look like he constantly tries to find reasons to be away from you? If it seems like he is trying to find more ways not be at home, then you may have some concern. Even though your marriage may not be perfect, if your husband wants to spend time with you that is a very good sign the wheel of love is still very much working.

2. Does he constantly criticize you?

If your husband constantly criticizes you and seems to try to place unnecessary blames on you, he may be trying to justify things that he knows that he is doing wrong. Yet, even though he may know that he is at fault for some things, he may not be able to identify what is wrong; but he no longer loves you or not, it is an unhealthy situation in any case.

3. Does he generally forgive and tolerate your fault?

If your husband is generally forgiving, and tolerating your faults, that is a very good sign, even though you may have some disagreement (some might call them fight) if you are forgiving of each other, that usually only comes about through love.

4. Does your husband seem to have retreated into a shell that he has built?

If this is the case, he may not feel respected. He may be dejected. If these feelings go on for a long period of time, his “feeling” of love will diminish. If the lines of communication are not restored, it may get to the point where he no longer feels that he loves you.

5. Does he seem to be losing interest in physical intimacy with you?

There are several reasons why this can happen. Some of them have nothing to do with the loss of love for you. That is encouraging. On the other hand, if he is tempted to get involved in an affair, then this is a bad sign. You will have to be very careful when trying to provide answer to this question. Forgiving him after extra marital affairs.

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What Wives Can Do For Husbands Who Have Lost Their Jobs

Questions similar to this come often these days, “My husband has been ‘downsized’ and now he mostly lies around the house doing nothing. Every time I ask him if he sent out more resumes or looked for a job, he gets angry and we wind up in a fight. What can I do to help him?”

A “downsized” person having difficulty keeping focused on finding a new job isn’t unusual. It does not mean that he’s lazy, worthless, or uncaring. More likely, it means that he suffers from some level of depression which makes his job seeking more difficult. As Dave Ramsey pointed out the other night as I guested on his TV show on Fox Business Channel, often a man’s identity is tied into with what he does. Therefore, losing a job does more than cause financial difficulty; it also can cause identity crisis and a sense of hopelessness.

If you genuinely wish to help your husband, make his path forward easier rather than more difficult. Not only will that likely help you avoid marital difficulty, it also is the best thing to do to help him find work.

First, gently coax him to find out if he is depressed. There are several online tests to determine depression. If he is depressed, there are medications that can help in short order. However, you’ll need to reassure him that meds aren’t a sign of weakness, but a gift of God. Without medicines, where would humans be? Antidepressant or anti-anxiety medicine is just as valid as aspirin when your head hurts or antibiotics when you get a sinus infection.

Second, while you shouldn’t encourage his lying around doing nothing, you need to be understanding and encouraging. A man who lies around – looking a little but not trying hard – probably is questioning his abilities, wondering if he can make the grade, and worrying that he isn’t as good as he thought he was. Guys in that situation often see themselves as failures, inadequate, or helpless. Don’t add to those negative feelings by prodding and nagging. He’ll hear that as further evidence that he’s a failure. Instead, encourage him. Give him space and time. Sincerely and seriously tell him what you see in him that leads you to believe in him. Be careful that it in no way sounds manipulative or insincere. Slowly and mildly build him up by reminding him of who he is, what he is, and what his future can be.

Third, rather than evidencing panic, you demonstrate as much confidence as possible that everything will work out. That doesn’t mean that it’s all up to you. You may be afraid and worried just as he is. However, when a man is acting in “man mode” he is very strong. When he is operating in “am I a failure?” mode, for a little while he needs comforting rather than being the comforter. Do that for him now and you’ll likely see great results later.

Fourth, dream with him about new and different things that he or the two of you can do in the future. New business ideas. New career path. New educational processes. New area of the country. Rather than locking into what was before and hoping to restore it, become creative to see if this temporary setback may lead to something new and exciting.

Fifth, involve friends in whom he has confidence. Ask them to spend time with him over coffee or to go together to some event. Don’t let him spend too much time focusing on the problems by gently prodding his friends to help out.

Sixth, draw closer to God. Both of you. Kids, too.

Seventh, when necessary – NOT TOO SOON! – tell him that the two of you have mourned and worried enough and now it is time to do something. Pull out a pad of paper and ask him to brainstorm with you about all pertinent points. Bills. Selling things. Downsizing your lifestyle. Finding short-term income even if it’s not what he/you wish for long term. In other words, there comes a time when it’s time to DO rather than just FEEL.

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Marriage Gossips – Could These Be True About You & Your Husband?

Hi Ladies,

This is specially for wives and intending wives; as it may save you having a stroke and high BP.

1. Most Men cannot have sex exclusively with just one woman, for the rest of their lives.

2. Men are created with varied sexual appetite, some men can do without sex for a year, others cannot do without sex for a week.

3. A man who’s madly in love with one woman can still have sex with other women but still love his ‘woman’.

4. Some of the best husbands have concubines or mistresses, these extra marital affairs play a role in keeping the man sane and free of sexual tensions, especially during mid-life crises.

5.I f your man is just having sex with some sweet sexy teen or babe, DO NOT WORRY. But, if your man starts making midnight calls and exchanging text messages with another lady at odd hours, BE VERY WORRIED.

6. Before you choose your man, ensure he believes in AIDs, STDs and protected sex. That way, chances are that he will not bring HIV and other STDs into your life.

7. Most chronic wife beaters are faithful husbands, they hardly have extramarital affairs.

8. Most ‘extra’ loving husbands have concubines, these concubines keep the man abreast on new ways of making women happy.

9. Your man’s mistress or concubine is most times not interested in you or your home. She has already seen your pictures and those of your kids via your hubby’s phone. She and your hubby just have a sexual understanding or partnership which helps both deal with peculiar individual issues.

10. As a woman, if you go all out in a bid to catch your husband red-handed cheating, you WILL succeed. Then what next? If u listen hard to your domestic servants in their private discussions, u will certainly hear them insult you, so why listen?

11. Judge your man by his responsibilities towards you and the kids, and NOT by who he’s giving ‘doggie style’ to in the office.

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