wife-or-womanIt is not every woman that is qualified to be a wife, being a wife is much more complex than to be an ordinary woman. A wife is woman but not every woman is a wife material. A Wife’s position can be likened to a pleasant fragrant, salt and sweet taste which must not lose her value. A wife is an important personnel and backbone of every home. You are there to give life, love, care and wonderful touches to the life of your husband and children. Family life is more enjoyable with a woman of integrity- a wife. It is not every married woman that performs the role of a wife. Any woman that fails in her duties at home is no more a wife. A wife is a female adult that knows she has husband to care for. The word “wife” is a title given to an extraordinary woman, who values her position and stand up to her responsibilities at when due. Although the position is more than a title but character influence over her home. As a single lady, don’t prepare yourself to be one of the women in marriage, but a wife to be.

What do you do to transcend from an ordinary woman to a responsible wife:

1. Respect your husband
2. Realize yourself as a prayer warrior of the family
3. To be an outstanding wife, you have to endure many things so that you can enjoy many things
4. Don’t substitute the love of your husband with your children
5. Be a caring mother
6. Be familiar with the do’s and don’ts of your husband
7. Create time for your home no matter how tight your schedule may be
8. Be diligent, moderate and polite
9. Always pay homage to your in-laws
10. Let courtesy guide you always
11. Be very neat
12. Be reserved and have limited friends
13. Don’t be a trouble maker in the street
14. Always be ready to make peace with your husband
15. When you are hurt, don’t deny him what you suppose to give to him

Food for thought: if your husband were to repay your dowry, will he add to it or subtract from it? He can only add to it base on your contributions in his life. Before you can see the glory of revival in your marriage, you have your roles to play as a wife.

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A Letter From The Mistress To Every WIFE – A must read!

Letter from a Mistress

Dear House Wife,

We mistresses don’t intentionally go hunting for your husbands, we meet them like you meet people everyday, through friends, at the
supermarket, at work functions hell even on the side of the road.

We don’t always know from the get go the man is married because a lot of these brothers don’t wear rings or come with a stamp saying “taken”. Half the time …he’s alone, there’s no trace of you, even in his car! It takes a well trained eye to spot traces of another woman, e.g seatbelt perfume, weave strands, hair oil on the headrest, etc.

My job in your relationship is to give him a break from reality, yes you and the kids are real but so are the bills and school fees and
work stress. I’m where he de-stresses. I know my place trust me I do, I know to keep quiet when you call while we together.

I know not to spend on his credit card but to ask for cash, all this is to protect you, yes you, from pain, humiliation and suffering, I get a tired frustrated man and send you a well rested happy man, thank me don’t disrespect me for it!Calling me won’t change the fact that my clothes are expensive and my car is paid off, it won’t change the fact that my university fees are paid and I get to go to
the weekend conferences or boy’s nites out, swearing at me won’t change the fact that he grips my headboard when he rocks my world and screams like a girl, something u probably don’t even know about the man u married.
U don’t know the effort we put behind our little rendezvous jus to keep ur pudgy ass happy, and feeling secure.

Trust me the more you come after me the more he wants me, the more money he spends on me, the more intense our sessions get.

A true nyatsi will never ask him to leave you, instead she encourages him to stay with you even if you have messed up badly.

We never consider getting pregnant out of fear of having to deal with your sour face for the rest of our lives. So relax, your kids are
priority numero uno, even to us, we pick out the toys and clothes he shows up with, we encourage bonding time.

Consider yourself lucky if u find my number, at least u know he’s taken care of when you tired, and he’s gonna come right back once we done re-furbishing my apartment. Oh and trust me, I do the fighting for us, its my job to make sure its just us two, any others will be dealt with severely by me, so don’t ruin your manicure, I get a weekly one so its okay, let me do it.

I respect you, hence I stay away from family functions and make sure I take all my stuff out of the car when I was there, I don’t call after he’s left the office because I know its your turn.

I have my own things, the rest is just a bonus for having a kind and sharing attitude, I’m a professional with a great job and earn enough, I don’t have time to tend to a fulltime
relationship hence I don’t mind when he goes home to you.

★ My advice to you “mama’se khaya” stay in your home, and don’t pack your stuff and go tell your mom how you have failed at being a wife, it just makes you look stupid and weak and our men need strong women around them.

Look after your kids, tend to your home, cook
those hearty meals you so famous for, I can’t cook with these nails.

Don’t ask about me, he’s just going to lie and toss and turn in bed thinking about me in my victoria secret set he bought me for valentines day. Let me be, I will leave on my own accord one day.

If you don’t we might just trade places and you going to be saying “witchdoctors” or I consult babalawo, I don’t, I would rather spend that money on expensive holidays with our man. Truth is, I make him feel good, I’m a reminder of when he was young and I do all the things you are afraid to do, or just won’t do because you believe you are past that, I’m forever young and I compliment him, you suit him, trust me honey there is a huge difference.

I respect marriage and all it stands for, that’s why I’m doing my part to help yours stay together, so don’t think I don’t, I respect the nice thing you have done and I love your kids too much to hurt them. Don’t cry over me, or what we do, let it be, play your part and I will do what I’m supposed to do.

Yours (and your mans)



Wherever there is Love, there is also Wealth and Success.

Love and happinessA woman came out of her house and saw 3 old men with long white beards sitting in her front yard. She did not recognize them. She said “I don’t think I know you, but you must be hungry. Please come in and have something to eat.”

“Is the man of the house home?”, they asked.
“No”, she replied. “He’s out.”

“Then we cannot come in”, they replied.

In the evening when her husband came home, she told him what had happened.

“Go tell them I am home and invite them in!”

The woman went out and invited the men in”

“We do not go into a House together,” they replied.
“Why is that?” she asked.
One of the old men explained: “His name is Wealth,” he said pointing to one of his friends, and said pointing to another one, “He is Success, and I am Love.” Then he added, “Now go in and discuss with your husband which one of us you want in your home.”
The woman went in and told her husband what was said. Her husband was overjoyed. “How nice!!”, he said. “Since that is the case, let us invite Wealth. Let him come and fill our home with wealth!”

His wife disagreed. “My dear, why don’t we invite Success?”

Their daughter-in-law was listening from the other corner of the house. She jumped in with her own suggestion: “Would it not be better to invite Love? Our home will then be filled with love!”

“Let us heed our daughter-in-law’s advice,” said the husband to his wife.

“Go out and invite Love to be our guest.”

The woman went out and asked the 3 old men, “Which one of you is Love? Please come in and be our guest.”

Love got up and started walking toward the house. The other 2 also got up and followed him. Surprised, the lady asked Wealth and Success: “I only invited Love, Why are you coming in?”

The old men replied together: “If you had invited Wealth or Success, the other two of us would’ve stayed out, but since you invited Love, wherever He goes, we go with him. Wherever there is Love, there is also Wealth and Success!”

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How to Get Your Husband to Quit Checking out Pretty Women

Women-issueDon’t you ladies hate it when your guy slyly gives “the look” to some woman? You know–that quick once over from head to toe that he thinks you don’t notice? How do you handle this problem?

This is completely natural for most men. It’s wired into them by instinct. It does not mean anything. It has no meaning about his relationship with you. Mother nature wants him to look.

Make sure that he is indeed doing this. There is a difference between a gawk and a glance–learn to tell the difference. Let’s be fair here–the shock effect of the skin some women show can make anyone stare, so understand the difference. Put more of the blame on the women… there is a war out there for the hearts and souls of men–let’s turn the spotlight on these women and shame them at their attention-seeking.

Talk candidly to your partner about what he finds so desirable in the coveted hottie. Don’t say things that anger your spouse or make him want to not listen to you, such as, “Honey, would you like me better if I dressed like her?”

Don’t fall into the temptation of dressing loosely just to win male approval. Men don’t just look at seductive women either. Also, make sure that you are dressed your very prettiest. Modest is best when you are with your guy. Believe it or not, men really do feel more highly of you when you respect your body enough not to show it off to every guy out there.

Overall, Be honest with yourself! You like it when men other than your husband look at you with wanting eyes… so don’t be hard on him when he does the same!

Understand that men are not attracted to all of the women that they stare at–some are just visually targeted on a piece of jewelry, a strange hairstyle, some funky footwear–it’s really not just lust that draws a man to fixate on something. However, some men will always look, even if you’re prettier. It’s easy to see this as a negative commentary on you, but this is usually not be the case.

Examine yourself each day to make sure that you are not exceptionally/naturally jealous and possessive. If you are, try to accept that you can’t kill all of the beautiful women in the world. There will always be competition. Remember, he’s choosing to be with you.

If this is a major problem you should schedule a time for the two of you to see a therapist/counselor. A woman’s insecurity can be a large part of the problem. If he is insensitive or cruel about his looking you can discuss this as well.

Examine yourself each day in the mirror to see if you are looking the best you can–you don’t need to cake on make-up and dress extravagantly, but do dress the best you can and pay attention to details (ask a close friend to tell you what you might do differently).

The fact he is married to you says he loves women. Realize there is nothing unhealthy about him looking.

If his looking makes you feel bad, you should discuss it with your husband and let him know how it makes you feel. He probably won’t stop looking but may change his behavior around you.

Source: I Love My Hubby

Is Social Media Causing Your Marriage Problems?

With the popularity of social media on the rise, research is beginning to show a direct correlation between the high volume of usage and the rise in marital problems.  Many people spend too much time on social outlets and not enough time working on areas of their marriage that may be suffering from neglect and inattention.  As you take advantage of the speed of communication and the networking available at the click of the mouse, remain vigilant to the areas of your marriage that might fall victim.

Facebook, for example, has become the most popular website to use to reconnect with old friends and family around the world.  This activity has become ingrained into daily routines and some spouses are experiencing turmoil as they deal with the renewing of old relationships by their spouses. The convenience of finding old flames and friends and the amount of time spent on these social websites can cause problems to arise in a marriage.

Divorce attorneys use the posts on Facebook to fine evidence of infidelity and conversations about problems occurring in a marriage.  66% of these attorneys admitted that they do peruse Facebook for information to help their clients with divorce cases and 81%  have seen a rapid rise in the references to Facebook posts being used as evidence in cases in the last five years.

Marriage takes dedication and hard work by both parties. You both must focus on fulfilling the commitment that you made to honor and cherish each other at all times, not just when it is convenient for you or the internet is down.  If you are experiencing some problems in your marriage or you and your spouse constantly have “discussions” about your activity on the social media outlets, this might be a good time for evaluation and reflection about how social media might be causing problems in your marriage.

Using social media makes illicit behavior easier and more convenient to the wandering spouse. Instead of going to clubs and other areas to meet people willing to engage in an affair, today’s cheating spouses are using the internet.  It offers anonymity and a vast pool of potential partners searching for illicit affairs.  There is less risk of being suspected and caught in this destructive behavior.

Marital problems that are based in wayward online behavior usually begin quite innocently.  Connecting with an old high school friend may begin by exchanging up- dated information but can quickly turn into emotional sharing and communicating that should be reserved for a spouse.  The sharing of personal thoughts and dreams can deepen the sense of intimacy and can lead down the road to a more intense, physical relationship between the reunited friends.  The spouse doesn’t intentionally begin the contact for the wrong reasons, but if conversations take place with the old friend more often than the spouse, then problems can arise very quickly.  Even though the beginning of this reconnection is innocent, after feelings begin to develop, the continuation of the “friendship” should be stopped.  When one spouse tries to get needs met outside of the marriage vows, problems are just around the corner.  This spouse is making a deliberate decision to share his emotional love with someone other than his partner; this will not meet his needs nor will it make his marriage stronger.  This is called an emotional affair which can do as much damage as a physical affair.

If a couple is working as a team, the communications and intimacy aspects of their marriage are strong and no outside support is needed.  The couple respects the needs and feelings of each other and encourages individual growth and development.  If these two important parts of the marriage are weak, each individual may be selfish and try to get what they desire from each other instead of being supportive.

A good question to ask as you evaluate your relationship as it relates to social media is “am I talking to someone outside our marriage more than I am talking to my spouse?”  If you are confused or don’t know the answer to this question, then ask your spouse for his input.  He will be appreciative of the fact that you asked him and will help you find an honest answer.  Be prepared to make some changes if the answer to the question is yes. You should never discuss important personal issues with anyone other than your spouse, especially if it directly affects them.  Discussing this concern before discontent sets in, can make your marriage stronger and can start a sensitivity that promotes new growth in your relationship.  Find a quiet, private place so that you can talk about social media and how it affects your marriage without being embarrassed.  It is very important to be proactive in dealing with problems that one spouse may perceive in the marriage.  The emotional support needed in a healthy relationship can be provided with open and honest discussions thus eliminating the need for assistance from outside the marriage.

To build strong trust in a relationship, it is important to disclose all online conversations, friends, and online activity.  Share passwords and access keys to the social media accounts like Facebook, Twitter, and Google.  You can still respect each other’s privacy while providing access to your social sites.  If you have nothing to hide, then you won’t mind your spouse being able to see your accounts.  Trust and honesty are the cornerstones of a good marriage so work hard to keep these viable in your relationship.  If one partner does not want to share this access, there may be trust issues that stir an underlying current of trouble in the marriage.  Exploring this tide of mistrust early can prevent a tragic ending.

If you feel after beginning the evaluation process of your social media activity, that it is adversely affecting your marriage, you can take some steps to prevent any further damage. Begin by unfriending those who are a temptation to you.  Examples of dangerous liaisons are old flames and other individuals searching for “something” to fill a need they are experiencing.  Next, have your computer screen so that it can be seen by your spouse whenever you are online.  Don’t minimize your window if your spouse walks by.  If you are ordering a surprise for a birthday or holiday, then that should not be a problem.  All of your activity should be available for your spouse to see.  Avoid chatting online late at night or when your spouse is away from home. This can be common sense for your safety as well. You don’t want the entire web to know that you are home alone.  It’s also a smart idea to set time limitations for your internet use. You will want to have time in the evenings after a long day to discuss events with your spouse.

Devoting too much time to any type of activity can harm your relationship with your spouse.  This includes spending a great amount of time on social media outlets.  It causes distress with your spouse and has become one of the largest problems that married couples face today.  As couples, we strive to find enough quality time to spend with our spouse and yet, we have very little trouble finding enough time to browse the internet for long periods of time.  Participating in online activities can become addictive if you aren’t careful; commit to spend more time with your spouse.  On Facebook, users spend over 500 billion minutes a month in varying activities.  Whether it’s a game-oriented activity, browsing profiles, or chatting with friends, it’s valuable time spent away from a spouse.  Many people lose track of time while they are engaged in internet activities which can build up tensions between spouses.  Face-to-face personal time is limited and friendly discussions are lost in cyberspace conversations that take place sometimes with strangers.  The key to a successful marriage is constant and caring communications and when this suffers, the relationship suffers.

Most Facebook users have an average of 130 friends who range from old boyfriends/girlfriends, past love interests, nosy in-laws, toxic co-workers, and family friends who have nothing better to do than cause problems among “friends.”  When these people are online chatting, they are taking away real time interactions between spouses.  The marriage of the couple is affected in a negative way many times and problems arise that would never have arisen had the internet user turned off the computer a little earlier.

Information on these social media sites is passed from person to person at a rapid rate of speed and many times with inaccuracy.  Spouses find themselves regretting something that they have said or second guessing the intent of a post. If a post is made regarding one’s spouse that includes complaints or negative comments, the marriage will be adversely affected and tensions will be created.  Each day, users normally contribute 70 pieces of information on Facebook each month.  With this level of activity, miscommunication occurs, comments are misread, and inappropriate comments are posted.  Sometimes too much information is provided about a personal situation; the result of this action is an angry, hurt and embarrassed spouse.

Many social media users forget the fact that the entire world can see and respond to comments posted on accounts.  For couples over the age of thirty, this can be the first online activity in which they have participated.  Trying to understand the online community and navigate through the myriad of choices and selections to make can be confusing and uncertain.  Remember that online is not the place for jokes or “just kidding” comments.  Intonations and meanings cannot be completely portrayed online thus many feelings of ill well can be fostered.  Couples should discuss how to establish boundaries for common sense for postings online.  This will facilitate a better plan for using social media websites for positive and educational reasons.  You don’t want to have a constant argument about the use of social media in your home.  Select your friends carefully and agree to be conservative with the types of posts you make that represent you as a person and the two of you as a couple.  Make this a win-win situation for you and your spouse.

A social media website is not the place to air your dirty, personal laundry that can cause embarrassment to your marriage or your spouse. Even if you think you are kidding, the intent will be perceived as rude and cruel.  The entire web should not see any negativity in your marriage; always make posts that are positive and uplifting.Accentuating the positive aspects of a marriage will make it stronger and cause it to grow and deepen. Think of your marriage as a team effort with you and your spouse as team members. Together, the two of you can achieve your goals and dreams if you encourage each other and truly care about the progress you are making as a winning team.

Be careful what you share about your life as a couple online with others.  There are anniversaries, birthdays, celebratory occasions, and other events that we want to share online. Your friends and family will want to share your happiness with youand sharing those accomplishments up to a point is acceptable.  Reserve the intimate details of your marriage for the privacy of your home environment.  Some things are better shared only between the two of you not the entire world.  Keep the special things “special” and don’t dilute the importance of the occasion by telling every breathing person the details.

Each spouse should carefully check the friends list of the other. Locate people with whom you feel uncomfortable and unfriend them.  If online friends are making vulgar or inappropriate comments, consider hiding their comments or deleting them all together.  Discuss with your spouse any conversations or attempts at chat that people make that cause you stress or concern.  In today’s world as we travel online and meet people that we don’t really know much about, our personal safety should be at the top of our list when accepting friends.  Your spouse may become upset if you reveal personal information like addresses, telephone numbers, or daily activity that lets people know that you are home alone or you are away from home.  Never tell things that a criminal element might be watching for ill will or gain.  Decide with your spouse early on the type and amount of personal information that should and should not be shared online. Any contact on a social media outlet that strains or causes stress in your relationship with your spouse is not worth keeping.

It is a good practice to demonstrate on your social media accounts that you are very happily married. Include pictures of you and your spouse in your online photo albums.  Mention them frequently and introduce them to your friends just as you would in a real life situation.  Establish in a very convincing way that you are married and are not seeking any liaisons of any sort.  Let your marriage come through in all of your posts and comments.

If the choice comes down to participating in social media or working on your marriage, you should always choose the latter.  Don’t ever take your marriage for granted or put it second to your social media accounts.  Neglect of your partner can cause boredom, loneliness, and a craving for attention and conversation.  Spend quality time each day with your spouse one-on-one and put the computer in its proper place.  Your online friends should come second to your spouse who is the love of your life.  Don’t let interruptions and trivial discussions take time from your marriage.

As you reflect on your social media activities, think about how much time you spend playing games on these websites. Are you leaving real-time activities and events waiting while you feed virtual animals or harvest fabricated crops?  This can be devastating to a spouse who has had a difficult day and yearns for love and support.  Make sure your priorities are in line with your marriage commitment and vows.

Do not flirt or post inappropriate pictures on these social media sites.  You must watch what you post and anticipate how a reader might take your comment.  You do not want others to think you are flirting or making suggestive remarks; your spouse will be very disappointed and angry with this type of behavior. Be aware that these types of posts will cause problems in any marriage.

As divorce statistics begin to show that activity with social media is affecting marriages, a common sense approach should be taken when evaluating its impact on your marriage.  Being unfaithful has been present in society long before social media exploded into our culture.  Spouses who are prone to cheating are simply using social media outlets to connect in a more subversive method to conduct their affairs and wandering ways.  They are keenly aware of the slippery slope they are treading upon but proceed with their behavior because of the protection these social media outlets afford them.  They can remain anonymous and conduct conversations without fear of being caught.  The bottom line is that a spouse makes a bad decision and social media outlets are just the vehicle used to promote that lapse in judgment.

The underlying cause of a problem marriage is usually a failure of communication, attention to the caring of the emotional needs of a spouse, or using time to develop individual interests instead of working on the marriage.  Friendships online can quickly move from appropriate and acceptable to inappropriate and unacceptable with little effort or time. A spouse who is unfaithful in an emotional relationship makes a deliberate decision to go outside the marriage vows to satisfy a need that they had.  Instead of working with a spouse to address those needs and wants, the guilty spouse demonstrates a flaw in character as they place themselves in the dangerous position that may ruin a strong marriage.

A good, strong marriage is based on communication, hard work, and effort. It’s a daily job that requires determination, devotion, and dedication to the love of your life.  Investing time and compassion is a prerequisite to the growth and development of a marriage.  A delicate balance between individual and couple activities is needed to ensure a couple of a successful marriage.  If this balance is disrupted by an unusual amount of time being devoted to social media, then problems will arise.

Hiding secrets in your social media accounts will erode the trust and honesty you have worked so hard to develop.  Messages that flirt with or encourage others to make inappropriate comments will cause guilt and resentment. This, in turn, will affect the way that you react and respond to your spouse.  You will overcompensate for your infidelities and soon, suspicions will arise concerning your online activity.  Anything that you hide will create problems for the two of you.  Practicing transparency with your social media activity removes all doubts and establishes a pattern of trust and accountability.

A good rule of thumb in gauging your internet activity and how it is affecting your marriage is to pay attention to what your heart is telling you.  Your heart is a good guide to tell you when you are sailing down the slippery slope toward infidelity and endangering your marriage.  If you are feeling an excitement that you cannot share with your spouse, then your action should be stopped before it is done.  If you can’t share something with your spouse, then that should be an indication that something is not worth doing.

When you post on social media outlets, your life becomes an open book for everyone to see.  Unfortunate circumstances arise when people are looking for greener grass on the other side of the fence.  What many do not realize is that the grass also needs mowing on that side of the fence as well.  Studies show that one out of five cases of divorce includes a mention of some form of social media.  Even though the rate of divorce has declined in recent years, social media has become an outlet that can cause marital problems.

There’s not a doubt among researchers that social media can be a threat to the strongest marriage.  Instead of offering virtual attention and compassion, you need to demonstrate that in real time and with caring toward your spouse.

Technology when used appropriately and in a balanced way, works extremely well for couples.  The key to successfully using the social media outlets as they relate to your marriage requires setting boundaries, being transparent and honest, avoiding the  pitfalls of inappropriate friendships and conversations and putting down the computer or cell phone when your marriage needs tender loving care and attention.  Remember to engage your spouse in interesting conversations on a daily basis and to share access to your online accounts with each other.  Refrain from making comments that have content that is questionable or whose intent is not clear.  Don’t let social media activity influence the growth or deepening of your relationship.  Marriage should be for a lifetime; social media should be experienced in small doses.

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Sharing a Meal – An Inspiration Story Worth Reading

"Sharing a Meal"The little old couple walked slowly into McDonalds that cold winter evening. They looked out of place amid the young families and young couples eating there that night. Some of the customers looked
admiringly at them. You could tell what the admirers were thinking.

“Look, there is a couple who has been through a lot together, probably for 60 years or more!”

The little old man walked right up to the cash register, placed his order with no hesitation and then paid for their meal. The couple took a table near the back wall and started taking food off of the

There was one hamburger, one order of french fries and one drink. The little old man unwrapped the plain hamburger and carefully cut it in half. He placed one half in front of his wife. Then he carefully
counted out the french fries, divided them in two piles and neatly placed one pile in front of his wife. He took a sip of the drink, his wife took a sip and then set the cup down between them.

As the man began to eat his few bites of hamburger the crowd began to get restless. Again you could tell what they were thinking. “That poor old couple. All they can afford is one meal for the two of them.”

As the man began to eat his french fries one young man stood and came over to the old couples table. He politely offered to buy another meal for the old couple to eat. The old man replied that they were just fine. They were used to sharing everything.

Then the crowd noticed that the little old lady hadn’t eaten a bite. She just sat there watching her husband eat and occasionally taking turns sipping the drink. Again the young man came over and begged them to let him buy them something to eat. This time the lady explained that no, they were used to sharing everything together.

As the little old man finished eating and was wiping his face neatly with a napkin the young man could stand it no longer. Again he came over to their table and offered to buy some food. After being politely refused again he finally asked a question of the little old lady.

“Maam, why aren’t you eating? You said that you share everything. What is it that you are waiting for?”

She answered, “The teeth”.

This life is for loving, sharing, learning, smiling, caring, forgiving, laughing, hugging, helping, dancing, wondering, healing, and even more loving. I choose to live life this way.



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How To Please Your Husband & Keep The Fire Of Love Burning

Just received this from one of our fans, Shirley:

Read through… you’ll gain a lot from it. Happy reading…


Hello Jenny,


I don’t even know how to begin. At the beginning of our marriage, we both had the best time of our lives, but about 1 and half month after putting to bed, it was as if the world is coming down on me. I was so stressed that I always find faults in anything my husband was doing so, he was under stressed because I stressed him around. We were both under stress that it lead to some heated arguments and quarrels but to God be the Glory, we always dialogue and try to find a solution before that day passed by.

I went on my knees for God to give us wisdom and understanding in our marriage, we were both from different race, culture and background. Today, I can boldly tell you that we no longer have such problems, we don’t have insecurities because we love and cherish each other dearly, we help each other, we discuss about anything and everything, we don’t keep secures from each other, we are best friends, I can go on and on cos the list is endless. My advice to the married ladies out there is, put God first in your marriage and in everything you do. Be your husband’s best friend.

Discuss with him about any topic, be it work related, business, movies, news, football, God, etc. Argue(not bad) with him sometimes even if you know he is right, just do it for fun and to keep him talking then, you can admit he is right. Always say I’m sorry when you offend him. Always tell him you love him even before and after work. Always kiss him good morning and good night before you sleep. Make sure you never go to sleep being angry with him, always resolve your differences before you go to bed. Always show him love and appreciate him no matter what. Be honest with him and don’t pretend.

Always ask for his opinion before you do anything. Always be proud of your husband. These are little, stupid, foolish but most essential in having a blissful marriage. When last did you have sex(I mean hot crazy sex not love making) with your husband? When last did you buy a sexy night dress and sexy pants or G-string just to surprise your husband after he has a very stressful day? When last did you give your husband a blow job and a hand job? When last did you creme you sexual life? When last did you massage your husband?

These are also some of the things some ladies ignored because they are now married. When last did you try new food recipes? Come on Married Ladies, be exciting, creative, sexy, hot, beautiful, discover and go on adventure with your hubby.



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Fun Things To Do With Your Spouse That Won’t Cost a Dime


Today, I wish to blog about something not too serious…

Was just wondering if there are things that won’t cost money, that couples could do to have fun.

I’ve asked members of our newsletter here  to contribute to this some days back…and some of them sent in the following.


Fun Things To Do With Your Spouse That Won’t Cost a Dime

1. Make up the bed together.
2. Make Breakfast together.
3. Wash the dishes together.
4. Take out the trash together.
5. Sweep the floor together.
6. Mop the floor together.
7. Vacuum the carpets together.
8. Put the laundry in the washing machine together.
9. Dry and pack up the dishes together.
10. Hang the laundry on the line together.

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How can your wife describe you? Below are few categories of husband:

(1). Autocratic Husband– He is a self-knowledge, self-involved, unbending, unyielding husband. Nobody can correct him, nobody can counsel him. To him, he knows everything. He is very arrogant and stubborn. He has no …mentor. He does not fear, honor or respect anybody.

(2). Corrosive Husband– He is abusive; hot tempered and a wife beater. He is not in charge of his temper. He is a no-joke, no-play, no-laughter and no-nonsense man. He shouts and barks at home.

(3). Solo Husband– He stays in separate room away from his wife. He is a “single” married man. He prefers sharing his secret with friends; the only time he talks to his wife is when he needs food and sex.
He is self-centered; his common words are “I”, “me”, “mine” and “myself”. He is full of self-glorification, self-justification and stinginess.

(4). Semi-Husbands– They are not real husbands, they are men under their trouser but lesser than that in their duties at home. They are real men in bed and on the dining table; but when it gets to paying school fees they are nothing.

(6). Supermarket Husbands– These are the kind of husbands that are unfaithful to their wives. They are everybody’s husband. To men like this, anything in skirt is good for a bedmate. They pay huge amount of money on hotel bills.

(7). Executive Husbands– These are the kind of men that live their lives in an executive way. They do not allow their wives to have any close relationship with them. They operate their rooms as if it is the general manager’s office; no love, no romance and no intimacy. If their wives want to enter their rooms, they have to knock and obtain permission before coming in.

(8). Traditional Husbands– They see their wives as properties. They believe women are third class citizens, useful only in the kitchen and bedroom. To them, a woman is just a cook, a tool of pleasure (sex) and baby making machine.

(9). Baby Husbands– They are not under-aged men physically, but they are infant mentally. They know how to build a house but not how to make a home.

If you want to know baby husbands look for the following:

• He keeps malice with his wife
• He rejects food because he is angry
• He beats his wife
• He reports his wife to friends and family members
• He keeps a separate room from his wife.
• He embarrasses his wife publicly
• He calls his wife goat, animal, fool, etc.
• He loves his mother more than his wife
• May refuse to give house-keeping allowance because of a little misunderstanding
• Can never be influenced by his wife
• He is a contentious husband, he nags.
• Will never pray with his wife
• Always find it difficult to say “I am sorry”.
• Will never help his wife with the baby.
• He threatens his wives with polygamy or divorce
• He criticizes, condemns and compares his wife with other women
• He does not love his wife, if he does; he will never say it, or demonstrate it.
• He leaves the house without anybody knowing where he has gone to.
• He gives no room for romance and intimacy. All he wants is sex.
• Gives no room for foreplay before sex. He is just like a carpenter who has no emotion for the nail.
• He retaliates instead of rewarding
• Never does anything to improve his marriage. He will never read marriage books, attend seminar or go for counselling.

(10). Kingdom Husbands– They are extra-ordinary husbands; they are what God want them to be as husband. They know that their God is to be feared and worshiped, their wives are to be loved and their children are to be catered for. They are “real men”, men indeed; they are the SUNSHINE in the life of their wives and children.

– They are man of integrity: – They mean what they say; and say what they mean
– They do pray with and for their wives.
– They are faithful, loving and caring.
– They cherish and nourish their wives.
– They are good communicator.
– Apologize easily, forgive quickly.
– They lead their homes with wisdom

Kingdom Husbands – Traits of an Uncommon Hubby
1.God Fearing
2. Godly Character
3.Loves his wife
4.Respects and Honours
5.Good Communicator
6.Great Leader
9.He gives his Wife Peace
10.He is Committed to Marriage

This is not meant to abuse anybody, but for you to check yourself and try to be a better husband and father. The choice is yours………..

What manner of man do you desire out of the above?

Excerpt from Pastor Bimbo Odukoya.

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5 Top Marriage Killers You Don’t Realize You’re Doing

Marriage is tough. It’s even tougher when it hits a rough patch. If you don’t know what marriage is… it’s a continuous work of art that changes every day with the good and the bad that happens in people’s daily lives and it takes two people to make it work. What are married people supposed to do if they want to work on their relationship?

First, you may seek counseling that will help you fend off a divorce or that who just want to plain give up on the relationship. Second, you may spend time apart to work on your issues. Another way to stave off bad feelings in a marriage is be aware the 5 things that can kill a marriage.

(1) Centering on Yourself – Why is this number one on the list of five? If you always think about your own needs first and not the needs of your spouse or children, it’s likely that your marriage will fail before it can even get off the ground. If you’re a person that finds themselves in this sort of relationship, don’t despair. There’s hope. Try doing something for your spouse. This is something out of the ordinary. Do something when they least expect it too.

(2) Keeping Your Feelings Inside – Those feelings that you keep inside of you tend to build up until they spill out all at once, mostly in a bad way too.

(3) No Restraints – Some people have a habit of talking all the time instead of holding in their feelings and words. If you find yourself as this sort of person, there is hope for you. However, you need patience to fix this issue. You can stop yourself from talking all the time, even if you don’t think so.

(4) Interruptions – Do you have a habit of interrupting your significant other when they are talking? This is a problem that needs to be corrected because everybody wants to be heard. Make sure to allow your spouse some talking time too.

(5) No Affections – Even if you and your spouse are having an argument and agree to disagree, you both need to express your love for each other, whether verbally or physically after the fact. When there is a marriage with no affections, both parties can feel unloved.

Have you noticed that the majority of the list centers on lack of communication in a marriage? This is due to the fact that a marriage cannot work without spouses talking to one another.

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